Being a parent is the most important job you can do. Some parents liken it to a journey - one filled with rewards and joy, but also of frustration and challenges.
Good parenting is hard work. However, there are certain things you can do that support your children’s development. To download this tip sheet to share with your community, please click here.
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- Be a positive role model
Your child learns more by watching you, than by what you say to them. By watching you, your child gets clues on how to behave. Model the qualities you wish to see in your child, e.g. respect, courtesy, honesty, generosity. For instance, if you want your child to speak respectfully to and of others, then watch the words and tone of your voice.
If you do occasionally break one of your own rules, explain to your child the situation and why you behaved the way you did. Explore how you could have handled it better and what you would do differently the next time.
- Make time for your children
It’s often difficult for parents and children to spend quality time together, especially if you’re a working parent. But there is nothing children would like more.
One-on-one time is like gold, so schedule together time with each child and do something they enjoy. Create a “family night” each week to be together and let your kids help decide how to spend the time. Neither have to be complicated or expensive - it can be as simple as making popcorn together or eating pizza at the beach. These occasions are even more valuable during stressful times.
- Tune into your child’s feelings
Being aware of what your child is feeling, and labelling those feelings, is the first step towards healthy emotional development. Children’s emotions can be hard to figure out, but if you try to see the world through their eyes you will be in a better position to offer them support and understanding in trying circumstances.
- Be available to listen and talk
This is one of the most important things you can do as a parent. When your child knows you are interested and listening, it sends the message that what your child is thinking and saying is important to you. If you don’t have time right now, let them know when would be a good time.
Make sure you follow through. If there is a problem, talk about it and express your feelings. Then invite your child to work on a solution with you, including consequences if necessary. Be open to hearing your child’s suggestions as well. Children who participate in decisions are more motivated to carry them out.
- Notice your child behaving well
All parents want their children to behave well. Even if it’s well-intentioned, you may find yourself criticizing more often than complimenting. The more effective approach is to catch your child doing something right. For example, “You made your bed without me asking. That’s great!” or “I noticed how nicely you were playing with your brother.” These statements will do more to encourage good behaviour over the long run than repeatedly reprimanding them or applying consequences for misbehaviour. A smile or hug sends a similar message.
Remember, if children have a choice between no attention or negative attention then they will act out to receive negative attention. So make a point of finding something to praise every day.
- Set limits and follow-through
The goal of discipline is to help children know what behaviours are acceptable and unacceptable and learn to self-regulate. They may test the limits you establish for them, but they need those limits to grow into responsible adults. They also need you to be consistent so they know you mean what you say.
Discipline works best when you have a warm and loving relationship with your child and encourage good behaviour, so parenting needs to focus on these fundamentals.
- Know what is good for your child’s health and wellbeing
As a society, we have become much more aware of the importance of mental health and wellbeing. We recognise its centrality to long-term happiness, healthy relationships and success at work.
You can assist your child by embedding good habits such as plenty of sleep, a healthy diet, lots of exercise, time in nature and relaxation techniques.
- Get support if you need it
All parents need support and help at times. Understanding that there will be challenging aspects to raising children and getting some help when necessary will help you maintain your sanity and be a better parent.
As we journey through these challenging times, please reach out for support. You can call Relationships Australia WA on 1300 364 277.
4families - If you live in Albany, Bunbury, Busselton, Cockburn, Kwinana, Mandurah, Manjimup, Margaret River or Rockingham you can get free support through our 4families service.
4Dads - The 4Dads program offers information, education, referrals and support for fathers of children up to 18 years in the Mandurah and Pinjarra areas.
Education - our professional facilitators offer a range of courses to help you address parenting challenges.
Counselling - We provide counselling for families, including group and individual sessions. Our counsellors are experienced and skilled in dealing with family relationship challenges and can help support families to assess their needs, identify areas for change, better understand and relate to each other, restore trust and communication and to ultimately strengthen relationships within the family unit.